Courage to be yourself!

Its been a while since I last picked up the guts and pieces to write after the weeks I have been through. Its been a learning time for me, a time to grow, a painful time, a time I almost lost any confidence in myself. A time where I could not do things I did before because I did not believe in myself enough to be able to do them again. I felt life pass me by but I did not care even a bit.
I felt so alone. Could not talk to the friends I used to because I just felt them judge me when I did talk to them.

I had hit rick bottom and I had lost all the will to fight!


However as the time passed by, I got to learn a few things.“Discomfort is a small price to pay for growth.”

Many women find it difficult to say “No.” So they keep saying “Yes.”
Some women hurt when they hear praise. They shake their heads and deny their worth.
Many women resist love. They are the caregivers, but they are afraid to be taken care of.
Sometimes a woman wants to get intimate, but she is held back by shame.
Fear, shame and doubt eat away at your self-esteem. Today, decide the course YOU want to take. Don’t always feel compelled to flow with the current.
Ask yourself: Who are you?”
Imagine for a moment that you are the main character in a novel. Ask these questions of that character. What makes her tick? What turns her on? What are her talents? What are her interests? What values guide her life?

The main character in a book evolves and grows. You must do the same. Get to know yourself and you too will evolve and grow.

Start by asking yourself questions about whom you are and what you like to do. Armed with this newfound knowledge you’ll feel confident in asserting yourself in new and more decisive ways.
And, your life will change – for the better!
As a woman you ought to Say “No” firmly and loudly when you need to. When someone praises you, smile gently yet proudly. Allow yourself to be loved and cared for. Take control of your intimate moments by deciding and expressing what YOU want.
Allow discomfort to wash over you and fade away. Do the things that you REALLY want and throw away the mask that has been hiding you. You can do it!

I cant say I am an expert but I am in a way better place than I was 7 weeks ago.
Its a decision you make and then act on it. To stand up for who you are, your priciples and your life!

Talk soon. Missed y'all!

Wondering where God is?

Many times we go thru phases in life that either take us to higher heights or sometimes u feel like they are sucking all the life out of you.. I have had a chance to go through some trying times and I have had to ask myself difficult questions, stopped believing in myself, wondered if God cared at all or if he was hearing any of my prayers.... but the answer to suffering cannot just be an abstract idea, because this isn't an abstract issue; it's a personal issue. It requires a personal response. The answer must be someone, not just something, because the issue involves someone - "God, where are you?" Many times during times of disteress, pain and loss we ask ourselves this question.


"Jesus is there, sitting beside us in the lowest places of our lives," and he has always said Are we broken? He was broken, like bread, for us. Are we despised? He was despised and rejected of men. Do we cry out that we can't take any more? He was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Do people betray us? He was sold out himself. Are our tenderest relationships broken? He too loved and was rejected. Do people turn from us? They hid their faces from him as a from a leper...


He is despised in many parts of this fallen world. He's the one we love to hate, yet to us he has chosen to return love. Every tear we shed becomes his tear. He may not wipe them away yet, but he will."


You know in all this..... as many explainations we may need as to why we are suffering or going through what we do...God knew Jesus was more than an explanation,"  "He's what we really need. If your friend is sick and dying, the most important thing he wants is not an explanation; he wants you to sit with him. He's terrified of being alone more than anything else. If  you are hurting always rememeber that God has not left us alone."

God has and will always be there with us even if all the world walks out. So pick up any pieces that you have dropped during the turmoil and give them to the only man who know how to patch them up.

Will leave you with that..

Talk to you soon. Cant believe I have not blogged in a while. Missed it.


Love y'all!