“Remember when you were first in love?” The times that everytime he or she walked through a door your heart skipped a beat, or you felt your stomach rumble?
Remember the small things you did to show your love to your boyfriend? Things like a phone call in the middle of the day just to talk or say “I love you,” a love note left in his car, a foot massage, simple gifts, and cooking romantic dinners.
Or even just sitting by the side of water at a beach with nothing more than a cup of coffee and a snack... Remember those days?
As time passes you get weighted down with simply living life and forget all those things that made the difference in the beginning. You start to take things for granted, you feel there is no more reason to impress the one you love and in return the excitment dies and the relationship, or marriage starts to drug.
But all is not lost...you can actually fall in love all over again. All you have to do is do the simple things he or she always mentioned about you that blew him away, the ones that he always just smiled and gave u a squeeze, or a kis in the fored and said THANK YOU.
You need to go back to that place. It is very improtant that you do. But please bear in mind, that the feelings will not turn round over night. It takes time and persistence.
I will not lie to you that it may not be frustrating sometimes but when you feel utmost discouraged, just put your mind and memory to that first time she ever said yes, or to the first time he ever looked into your eyes and said I love you.. the things that really mattered to you then, and then tell me if that feeling is not worth fighting for. Think of what it could be like to feel that way again.
Choose to give love and not expect it back and trust me you will one day have that feeling come right back and then you will know it was all worth it.
But an important point is do it in small amounts. Do not try to shove love down ur lovers throat. You will only push them away. If you feel them warming up to the small bits, increase the quantitites until you are both there....
Rekindle and reconnect with your relationship by consciously going back and doing the things that you did when your love first began to grow. Who knows? You may fall in love all over again!
Remember we do not achieve because we do not try...
I wish you all the best...
One last note:
Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Love the ones who don't just because you can. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.
Friday, December 10, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
Courage to be yourself!
Its been a while since I last picked up the guts and pieces to write after the weeks I have been through. Its been a learning time for me, a time to grow, a painful time, a time I almost lost any confidence in myself. A time where I could not do things I did before because I did not believe in myself enough to be able to do them again. I felt life pass me by but I did not care even a bit.
I felt so alone. Could not talk to the friends I used to because I just felt them judge me when I did talk to them.
I had hit rick bottom and I had lost all the will to fight!
However as the time passed by, I got to learn a few things.“Discomfort is a small price to pay for growth.”
Many women find it difficult to say “No.” So they keep saying “Yes.”
Some women hurt when they hear praise. They shake their heads and deny their worth.
Many women resist love. They are the caregivers, but they are afraid to be taken care of.
Sometimes a woman wants to get intimate, but she is held back by shame.
Fear, shame and doubt eat away at your self-esteem. Today, decide the course YOU want to take. Don’t always feel compelled to flow with the current.
Ask yourself: Who are you?”
Imagine for a moment that you are the main character in a novel. Ask these questions of that character. What makes her tick? What turns her on? What are her talents? What are her interests? What values guide her life?
The main character in a book evolves and grows. You must do the same. Get to know yourself and you too will evolve and grow.
Start by asking yourself questions about whom you are and what you like to do. Armed with this newfound knowledge you’ll feel confident in asserting yourself in new and more decisive ways.
And, your life will change – for the better!
As a woman you ought to Say “No” firmly and loudly when you need to. When someone praises you, smile gently yet proudly. Allow yourself to be loved and cared for. Take control of your intimate moments by deciding and expressing what YOU want.
Allow discomfort to wash over you and fade away. Do the things that you REALLY want and throw away the mask that has been hiding you. You can do it!
I cant say I am an expert but I am in a way better place than I was 7 weeks ago.
Its a decision you make and then act on it. To stand up for who you are, your priciples and your life!
Talk soon. Missed y'all!
I felt so alone. Could not talk to the friends I used to because I just felt them judge me when I did talk to them.
I had hit rick bottom and I had lost all the will to fight!
However as the time passed by, I got to learn a few things.“Discomfort is a small price to pay for growth.”
Many women find it difficult to say “No.” So they keep saying “Yes.”
Some women hurt when they hear praise. They shake their heads and deny their worth.
Many women resist love. They are the caregivers, but they are afraid to be taken care of.
Sometimes a woman wants to get intimate, but she is held back by shame.
Fear, shame and doubt eat away at your self-esteem. Today, decide the course YOU want to take. Don’t always feel compelled to flow with the current.
Ask yourself: Who are you?”
Imagine for a moment that you are the main character in a novel. Ask these questions of that character. What makes her tick? What turns her on? What are her talents? What are her interests? What values guide her life?
The main character in a book evolves and grows. You must do the same. Get to know yourself and you too will evolve and grow.
Start by asking yourself questions about whom you are and what you like to do. Armed with this newfound knowledge you’ll feel confident in asserting yourself in new and more decisive ways.
And, your life will change – for the better!
As a woman you ought to Say “No” firmly and loudly when you need to. When someone praises you, smile gently yet proudly. Allow yourself to be loved and cared for. Take control of your intimate moments by deciding and expressing what YOU want.
Allow discomfort to wash over you and fade away. Do the things that you REALLY want and throw away the mask that has been hiding you. You can do it!
I cant say I am an expert but I am in a way better place than I was 7 weeks ago.
Its a decision you make and then act on it. To stand up for who you are, your priciples and your life!
Talk soon. Missed y'all!
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Wondering where God is?
Many times we go thru phases in life that either take us to higher heights or sometimes u feel like they are sucking all the life out of you.. I have had a chance to go through some trying times and I have had to ask myself difficult questions, stopped believing in myself, wondered if God cared at all or if he was hearing any of my prayers.... but the answer to suffering cannot just be an abstract idea, because this isn't an abstract issue; it's a personal issue. It requires a personal response. The answer must be someone, not just something, because the issue involves someone - "God, where are you?" Many times during times of disteress, pain and loss we ask ourselves this question.
"Jesus is there, sitting beside us in the lowest places of our lives," and he has always said Are we broken? He was broken, like bread, for us. Are we despised? He was despised and rejected of men. Do we cry out that we can't take any more? He was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Do people betray us? He was sold out himself. Are our tenderest relationships broken? He too loved and was rejected. Do people turn from us? They hid their faces from him as a from a leper...
He is despised in many parts of this fallen world. He's the one we love to hate, yet to us he has chosen to return love. Every tear we shed becomes his tear. He may not wipe them away yet, but he will."
You know in all this..... as many explainations we may need as to why we are suffering or going through what we do...God knew Jesus was more than an explanation," "He's what we really need. If your friend is sick and dying, the most important thing he wants is not an explanation; he wants you to sit with him. He's terrified of being alone more than anything else. If you are hurting always rememeber that God has not left us alone."
God has and will always be there with us even if all the world walks out. So pick up any pieces that you have dropped during the turmoil and give them to the only man who know how to patch them up.
Will leave you with that..
Talk to you soon. Cant believe I have not blogged in a while. Missed it.
Love y'all!
"Jesus is there, sitting beside us in the lowest places of our lives," and he has always said Are we broken? He was broken, like bread, for us. Are we despised? He was despised and rejected of men. Do we cry out that we can't take any more? He was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Do people betray us? He was sold out himself. Are our tenderest relationships broken? He too loved and was rejected. Do people turn from us? They hid their faces from him as a from a leper...
He is despised in many parts of this fallen world. He's the one we love to hate, yet to us he has chosen to return love. Every tear we shed becomes his tear. He may not wipe them away yet, but he will."
You know in all this..... as many explainations we may need as to why we are suffering or going through what we do...God knew Jesus was more than an explanation," "He's what we really need. If your friend is sick and dying, the most important thing he wants is not an explanation; he wants you to sit with him. He's terrified of being alone more than anything else. If you are hurting always rememeber that God has not left us alone."
God has and will always be there with us even if all the world walks out. So pick up any pieces that you have dropped during the turmoil and give them to the only man who know how to patch them up.
Will leave you with that..
Talk to you soon. Cant believe I have not blogged in a while. Missed it.
Love y'all!
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Bait of Satan
This post is dedicated to two great friends of mine who do not realise what they may be but for me have been the best friends I could ever have and have stood by me through all this time. It has been a trying phase for me and I am just taking one step at a time....
I have been reading a book by John Bevere : Bait of Satan. This book speaks about offence and how if we take offence we are actually affecting ourselves and sinning.
“Holding grudges will consume your emotional energy… if you let it.”
Holding grudges uses lots of emotional energy. And, when your emotional energy is tied up in a grudge, it holds you in the past. Grudges hold energy hostage and it’s not until you forgive that your energy can be restored.
Think of forgiveness as something you do for yourself. Think of it as something that makes you stronger, not weaker.
If you’re holding grudges, let them go. Seek reconciliation if needed. If you find it hard to forgive then start with the small grudges and work your way up. The physical feeling of relief and the energy reclaimed will be well worth it.
Forgive today. It’s time to move on!
Catch you soon peeps!
I have been reading a book by John Bevere : Bait of Satan. This book speaks about offence and how if we take offence we are actually affecting ourselves and sinning.
“Holding grudges will consume your emotional energy… if you let it.”
Holding grudges uses lots of emotional energy. And, when your emotional energy is tied up in a grudge, it holds you in the past. Grudges hold energy hostage and it’s not until you forgive that your energy can be restored.
Think of forgiveness as something you do for yourself. Think of it as something that makes you stronger, not weaker.
If you’re holding grudges, let them go. Seek reconciliation if needed. If you find it hard to forgive then start with the small grudges and work your way up. The physical feeling of relief and the energy reclaimed will be well worth it.
Forgive today. It’s time to move on!
Catch you soon peeps!
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Don't let this steal your dreams!!!
Hand in hand with setbacks and challenges comes discouragement. Its ferocity can stop you in your tracks and before you know it your dreams seem unreachable. Stop! This is only true if you give in.
Today is the day you will conquer discouragement. Today is the day you will feel more determined and stronger than ever. Today is the day you will put one foot in front of the other and persevere.
Make a commitment to yourself that you will never give up when you feel disheartened, but rather, you will view these feelings as a sign to work harder.
You’re entitled to your dreams and aspirations. So why not make this commitment today?
I made mine this morning and it feels awesome! Loving me already!
Today is the day you will conquer discouragement. Today is the day you will feel more determined and stronger than ever. Today is the day you will put one foot in front of the other and persevere.
Make a commitment to yourself that you will never give up when you feel disheartened, but rather, you will view these feelings as a sign to work harder.
You’re entitled to your dreams and aspirations. So why not make this commitment today?
I made mine this morning and it feels awesome! Loving me already!
Monday, September 13, 2010
In the father's house
On the one hand there is the persistent memory of the past with its failures, hurts, shame, and guilt. On the other hand there is the revelation of the gospel that shows me who I now am in Christ. In so many of our lives, the voice of condemnation drowns out the voice of revelation. It is so much easier to focus our eyes on us than on the Lamb.
We become overwhelmed with the memory of our past rather than fixing our gaze on the robe, the ring, the sandals, the fatted calf-all symbols of our Father's grace lavished upon us. We walk down that dark road to find a corner in the servants' quarters.
Your journey to the Father's house begins with that first step of changing your mind about who you perceive yourself to beand who you truly are.
When you do change your mind about who you are, you will change you mind about where you live, moving out of the cold and isolated quarters of the servant into the warmth and intimacy of the Father's house.
Thats an inspiration I read today while trying to break out of a cucoon cycle of a terrible day.
And with that said I leave you with the quote:
"No body can go back and start a new beginning, but any one can start today and make a new ending! Today is the day I start my new begining!
We become overwhelmed with the memory of our past rather than fixing our gaze on the robe, the ring, the sandals, the fatted calf-all symbols of our Father's grace lavished upon us. We walk down that dark road to find a corner in the servants' quarters.
Your journey to the Father's house begins with that first step of changing your mind about who you perceive yourself to beand who you truly are.
When you do change your mind about who you are, you will change you mind about where you live, moving out of the cold and isolated quarters of the servant into the warmth and intimacy of the Father's house.
Thats an inspiration I read today while trying to break out of a cucoon cycle of a terrible day.
And with that said I leave you with the quote:
"No body can go back and start a new beginning, but any one can start today and make a new ending! Today is the day I start my new begining!
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Are you chasing happiness?
“Happiness is wanting what you have, not having what you want.”
At first glance this sounds like the same thing, take a closer look, it’s not.
If you’re completely fulfilled by spending time with your friends and family because you really want to be with them then you truly want what you have.
On the flip side, if you drive the nicest car and have a huge house, and have worked hard to get those things, then you’ve been successful at having what you want.
When you have what you want eventually the feeling of satisfaction wears off. Once you get what you want the old wants are replaced by new wants and the cycle continues. True happiness remains at bay.
Look around you, happiness may be closer than you think. It may just be a matter of changing what you value.
Today I take on time to find the things that make me really happy and love what I have..
Oh by the way I am leave...but stepped in just to see how my peeps are doing
At first glance this sounds like the same thing, take a closer look, it’s not.
If you’re completely fulfilled by spending time with your friends and family because you really want to be with them then you truly want what you have.
On the flip side, if you drive the nicest car and have a huge house, and have worked hard to get those things, then you’ve been successful at having what you want.
When you have what you want eventually the feeling of satisfaction wears off. Once you get what you want the old wants are replaced by new wants and the cycle continues. True happiness remains at bay.
Look around you, happiness may be closer than you think. It may just be a matter of changing what you value.
Today I take on time to find the things that make me really happy and love what I have..
Oh by the way I am leave...but stepped in just to see how my peeps are doing
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